At-tach-ment, [uh-tach-muhnt], noun
What occurs between parent and child when a repetitive cycle of needs (physical, emotional, spiritual) are met.
Ok, that wasn't Webster, that was me. But I think my definition pretty much sums it up, right?
There. That was easy.
Oh, if only making it
happen was as simple as defining it.
I pray constantly that Lord will show me new ways to build attachment with Macy. Little ways. I really love all the little ways I can meet even her smallest needs, over and over and over.
One thing she loves to do every night is take a HOT (listen, I mean really HOT) shower. Who can blame her? From what I understand there was NO hot water to shower in at her orphanage. Not even in the winter.
Did you hear me? NO HOT WATER.
Anyway, after her shower every night she crawls into bed, waits for Lucy to go to sleep then turns on her little book light and reads, late into the night. Love it!
Well, one night before heading to bed she got herself a glass of water, drank a little then set it on the counter and headed to the shower. I thought that was odd since I knew she wasn't coming back into the kitchen...but yet she ALWAYS puts her dishes in the dishwasher when she's done.
*Light bulb moment*
It suddenly occurred to me that this poor girl stays up late...and is probably thirsty (and hungry for that matter) some of the time but she NEVER has the courage to come get anything from the kitchen that she may need/WANT once she is in bed. Even though I've told her that this is her house and she's free to do that. And most certainly, living in an orphanage, that wasn't
ever an option.
From that night on, while she is taking her shower, I now fix her a glass of ice water (and usually a small snack) that I leave on her nightstand so that when she crawls into bed with her book, she can enjoy what the rest of us take for granted, a simple glass of water. And never again go to bed thirsty.
Ever.
Another small need met.
And a little tiny bit of attachment occurs.