Tuesday, July 21, 2009

when we disappoint our children

Just when I thought that I was a shoe-in for
Mother of the Year....
(Ok, not really)

I go and rely on my brain and mess up,
disappointing my sweet
middle child.

*sob, sob*

Today was supposed to be Nick's final
tournament for the summer junior golf tour
he is in.
It was one last chance to improve
his standing to qualify him for the championship

We got up bright and early,
headed out for the almost-hour away
golf course.

Got there.
Wow, where is everyone??
Ask guy who is walking through parking lot.

He says,
"Oh, the tournament was yesterday."

Shock and disbelief.
Nick and I are both crushed.

I know, I know...in the big scheme of things,
it's just a stupid golf tournament.

But for today,
to this sweet young man,
it was everything.

I feel like such a clod for not getting the date


Shonni said...

Ohhh, I am so sorry for you both!!!

Holly said...

Oh NOOO! I am so sorry.

Adeye said...

Oh friend, I am so sorry--I can only imagine how crappy you feel. But, it was just an honest mistake--and I KNOW our God works out all things to the good of those who love Him. He'll work this out for your sweet boy--I know He will.

Tony and Rett said...

Oh man...I'm so sorry!!!

Can you blame pregnant Mommy brain? I mean, you ARE still paper pregnant!

I'm trying here!

Chris said...


Sally- That Girl! said...

Okay, I feel horrible for you! I know exactly how that feels, but you also have to remember that part of growing up is for Nick to be responsible for this too. It is HIS tournament and he is old enough to keep track of these important events. I am sure this was a lesson learned for both. Give yourself grace and realize it was a life lesson for Nick too. Don't take the yucky feel away, but may help in the future!

Ruth-Ann said...

I am so sorry. I hope you didn't lose any money. Does he still get to play in the tourney?

Jean said...

Oh My- I am so sorry. I feel so terrible whenever I do that and yes I have done it too- argh. He is such a sweet kid he will forgive you but you have to forgive yourself!

McNew Family said...

so sorry :-(

Karin said...

Ohhhh....man....that is so hard! But, great opportunity for Nick to show his mama some grace.

Mom guilt--it's the worst. Nick surely knows that you did the best you could, though--that all of us make mistakes. I am sure that God will use it in his life as a way to teach him something he wouldn't have learned any other way. With God, it's all good. Even the 'bad.'

christy rose said...

Oh no! That is terrible. But I completely understand. I have decided that I can not be responsible for times and dates anymore. I used to be great at remembering them all and I am just not anymore. What is the deal? I have left all of the responsibilities for those kinds of things on my 12 year old and up kids. Once their twelve, they better step up and help remember all the things going on in their life or they just might get missed too. They are pretty good at it really. I am pleasantly surprised.

Lacy said...

Oh Lori. I am so sorry. I know you feel terrible, but it was an honest mistake. Don't be so hard on yourself. Sometimes I think we take disappointing our kids harder than they do.

I know exactly how you feel. When Justin was in Kindergarten he had a field trip to the pumpkin patch. It was his first field trip and I was going with him. I dropped him off on a normal school day. When I picked him up he was holding, you guessed it, a PUMPKIN! I forgot his field trip. I felt horrible. He got in the car and asked me why I was not there. I started to tear up and then my sweet boy dropped the bomb. He said "Mommy, you also forgot to pack me a lunch. But, that's OK my teacher shared hers!" I could have crawled under the seat of the car I was so humiliated and not to mention heart broken. To add insult to injury I did nothing all day. Really I cleaned a little and even took a nap. I felt terrible for a very long time. I kind of still do. Justin however is fully recovered and as far as I know he doesn’t even remember it. Of course he may spend some time in therapy when he is older over the “pumpkin patch incident of ‘05”.

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